4 Secrets to Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work

Relationships are much like plants, they need constant nourishing. When you are together, this type of nourishment comes easily through the activities and time spent with each other. However, when you are away from each other this becomes more difficult to accomplish.

Long distance relationships are not easy, but neither are any other types of relationships. By putting time and effort into your long distance relationship you can form and sustain a healthy long distance relationship that can bring you a lot of joy and happiness. All relationships have their ups and downs.

I honestly think long distance relationship are better than regular ones. You can actually fall in love with every single part of the person. Hearing their voice becomes so much more special. It's not all about the physical stuff. It's not about the petty stuff everyone has now. You get to know the person better than anyone you ever could in person. Yeah it sucks not being able to hold them and kiss them and be with them but when that time comes you cherish it so much more because you know what it's like not to have it.

Why do you prefer long distance relationship?

No, I don't prefer it, who is want to get separated too far with his or her boyf or gilf? It's not an easy thing to be in a long-distance relationship. It takes a lot of patience, understanding and trust. However, it can also be
a gauge to your true feelings for each other, especially if you had been used to being around each other all the time. If it lasts and the feeling continues to grow, then it's true love. So, why? Because I love him. 

I believe in our power of love, that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance. It's stronger. They mean a lot more. Well to me that is, I mean think about it. Trust is the biggest thing in a relationship. If you can trust someone who lives hundreds of miles away, then that's beautiful. Sure you don't get to hug the person, kiss the person, wake up the person, but you get to talk to them, hear them. And how perfect it's gonna be. You fight less. You laugh more. They're beautiful. And I respect anyone who is in one. They're hard, they're harder than a lot of things, but they're worth it in the end. Why let distance ruin your feeling for someone? Feelings are feelings, love is love, that's not gonna change. I love long distance relationship because I love him so much and we will through it.

You may be miles away from each other, but these LDR-cementing secrets will help you stay.

Q: I'm not sure if the distance is temporary or permanent. How do I get out of this relationship?

Certain things in life are unavoidable — taxes, Pap smears, narcissistic Kanye rants — and if you're in an LDR,

add "creating a relationship timeline" to the list. Because no one wants to be in a relationship with a big flashing question mark at the end. "You need to set a time limit on how long you're willing to be apart," says Wendy Walsh, PhD, a relationship expert in New York. Research shows a long-distance relationship has a better chance of working if there is an end date in sight, so work with your man to come up with a date after which one of you will start sending out resumes and house hunting in the other's city. "Successful people make plans for what they want to achieve, and a relationship plan is no different," says Walsh. If you want this to work, lean in to your LDR like it's the last chair in the boardroom.

Q: It's becoming financially difficult to see each other. How do we cope with the cost of visits?

When it comes to investing in an LDR, emotionally and financially, both people should be paying up. Experts agree that LDRs work best between people in similar financial situations so no one feels like the other person should pay for travel, but you can bust that argument wide open by alternating who visits whom or by splitting the bill no matter who hops the plane. Cut back on expensive activities during your visits, and contribute to travel funds in lieu of gifts.

Q: I thought reunion hug was going to be out of this world since we hadn't seen each other in so long, but it was just ... normal. Is that a bad sign?

In LDRs, reunions are the New Year's of hug: you hype them up so much that they can end up being a letdown. Take off the pressure by treating first-meet hug like the opening act, not the main event — remind yourself of the devious deeds you did while apart or deliberately make the first romp a quickie. If you don't see stars, just use that as an excuse to go for round two ... and three.

Q: This may sound basic, but I miss him so much. I'm always missing him, and it's really hard. How do I cope with that long-term longing?

The bad news is that missing your man is a standard part of being in an LDR. It would be weird if you didn't miss him. The good news is, there are ways to manage the loneliness. Set up a calendar that counts down to your next reunion. Swipe your favorite souvenirs to keep his presence around. The important thing is to keep your eye on the prize and remind yourself that the empty 50 percent of your bed is as temporary as a engagement. (cosmopiltan)

But when ...

And then suddenly you said, "FUCK TEXTING! I WANT YOU HERE RIGHT NOW. I MISS YOU SO MUCH."

So, what will you do?

I will send pictures and he will send too, care packages, cards, letters, unexpected surprises, take video calls, and daily phone calls. Keeping connected with communication is a key part to staying emotionally connected. I put his pictures in frames and place them near my bed where I could see so he's the last person I see before I turn in and the first person I see when I start the day.

Toh ...

And here I'll ask you some questions:

1. What do you do to stay close emotionally when you are so far away from each other physically?

2. What are some of the problems you have encountered in being in a long distance relationship? How have you overcome them?

3. What advice would you give to your best friend if he or she was about to enter a long distance relationship?

If you would like to send in advice on how to have a successful long distance relationship. Please send me an e-mail (umislmh27@gmail.com) and I will add it to the blog.

***Curhat edition, berhubung gue pernah ldr-an, jadi itu tadi udah gue share the secrets-nya ya :)
À bientôt :)